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hey this is Leo for actualize org and in this video I'm coming at you from the city of Toronto Canada as you can see behind me right there we've got the CN tower we've got the whole city back there but in this video what I really want to talk about is I want to talk about the idea of staying hungry and how it's important to remind yourself of where you came from especially if you already got a good amount of success in your life right now alright so let's talk about how to stay hungry so a little bit of backstory here I'm in Toronto right now and the reason that I'm here is not Pro vacation it's cold it's Whitney literally my fingers are feeling like they're about to freeze off it's still pretty much winter here it's bleep the reason I'm here is for a legal case that I've been trying to battle now for two and a half years we're an old client of ours from a previous business owes me and my partner 23 thousand dollars not only that but finally I come out here to argue the case and my lawyer ditches me so I'm without a lawyer I have to argue the case myself not only that but the the guy who didn't pay us he owns twenty two thousand off cash on goods that we delivered so not only that but he's countersuing us with a bogus claim fifty five thousand dollars because that's the most convenient way for him to escape paying us anything so so I'm on the line 55 grand beyond the money that I'm already being owed and on top of that I was here and I'm driving a rental car and I park it at night at the hotel and in the morning some thus crashes the sketches the side of the car and I can't even can't mine them what how we did it but card scratches now to pay for it so kinda had a brutal miserable day last night yesterday all of yesterday I spent inside a court room for eight hours arguing a case by myself no lawyer just arguing it I said 30 hours straight preparing for it its sleep basically that whole day and the day before it I just argued my ass off argued for my life um I have some I have I stub fears and emotional triggers around money right still have fears around that from childhood and so when I when I'm on the line 55 grand for me that's that's something I perceive as a life-and-death situation and I really I was pumped full of adrenaline yesterday I was really operating on a survival kind of killer instinct type of mode it was a do or die to the situation at least I perceived it that way and I was very very emotionally triggered I haven't been this emotionally triggered probably in five or ten years I would say this was literally one of the toughest most brutal days of my life emotionally and it kind of brought me back home it brought me back home and it triggered some memories of where I came from in the sense that you know emotionally where I came from internally my mind sets where those came from because I can vividly remember back to two times in high school in college when I was studying my ass off trying to be a good student and how much emotional labor went into that or at the end of college when I lost 65 pounds in six months how emotionally taxing that situation was and how much of a kind of do-or-die vent ality I had to apply there to get the result I wanted same thing for the business that I started first business that I started was also a do or die have a situation where literally I was going to either succeed I was going to be homeless so is that kind of a that kind of decision and and then after that getting into the dating scene getting that pickup scene studying sexuality and female psychology like for me that was also do-or-die of a situation it might sound funny to you just to hear that but literally for me it was like that because I was so bad with women I was so bad and that literally for me was it was going to be die miserable and lonely or like put massive massive massive attention and effort on this problem in your life and fix it and then maybe you could have a chance there's a chance to even be kind of at a normal level in the in the dating relationship area of your life so for me that was that was a very serious type of thing so so having done all those you know I kind of forgot and I've kind of started to get into a little bit of a rut a little sense of complacency started building up within me and I didn't notice that until yesterday when this thing came and just kind of like BAM like it punch me in the face and I felt it I felt what it was like to be fighting for your life that's what I literally felt and I also felt that I could empathize a little bit better with some of you guys because I know so you guys are already fairly successful already have good jobs already have good relationships already have good fitness levels good inner development of your mind in your psychology but some of you are our ad zro quite frankly some of your lies are some of your lives some areas within your lies or maybe your finances are or your relationships are or you have no really promising career or business opportunities for you you know maybe you're emotionally unstable maybe you're depressed maybe you're miserable maybe you're anxious maybe you're having panic attacks whatever that is I consider that kind of being at level at level zero you know a ground level and then you have to kind of work your way up and so I can I can empathize with you a little bit easier now I mean I could in the past but it's just that I've forgotten that and that's literally what happens that when you get more successful you get more and more successful than what sorts of habit is you start to kind of coast it's just a coach on that success that initial killer instinct that you had that got you to your present level of success what happens is that that killers and kind of starts to shut off because that's like a survival mechanism it's like I'll you know a lion jumps out in front of you as you're walking through the through the jungle well sure you're gonna get all fired up or you're going to start to act immediately you're not even gonna think twice you gonna start to run it and start a fight it's that flight-or-fight response well you can't keep that up all the time right so what happens is that slowly you kind of get accustomed to it accustomed to an accustomed to it and then you start to get into a run and any kind of dreams or goals that you had up there you know just kind of forget about them to kind of dissipate or you kind of sort of think ah I don't really need that anymore I'm kind of comfortable where I am and you get into this rut and being in this rut you know it can be nice you just kind of get comfortable but it also keeps you from getting to that true high level of success that level of self-actualization that you want to get to taking there take something more right you have to have more vision you have to start to motivate yourself in creative ways you can't just always look at yourself by negative pressure negative pressure negative forces survival instincts that's not going to be enough to get you to your ultimate level of potential to do that really you need those loftier goals you need be working towards something bigger for me personally now what that is it's not really money it's not sex it's not food it's not a you know a better house or a nicer car it's none of that it's really impact for me that's impact is the impact that I'm having on you guys it's the impact that I'm having on everybody that I interact with with the information I'm delivering right this is my purpose is what I'm doing so for me that's very important and to me what I'm doing now is I'm starting to notice that I need to I need to start to take this and I need to make it like a base need in my mind I need to kind of trick myself and say okay this idea impacting people to me it should be as important as breathing air you should be as important as the need for water and for food and for sex right it needs to be one of those kind of more baser levels because what I'm noticing is that for the last year I've been pursuing these lofty ideals these lofty values the problem is that I still get complacent on a day-to-day level and sometimes I get lazy sometimes I don't want to work that hard and honestly you know I'm not working as hard as I used to how hard I'm hurt out of college how hard I work to start my business like literally I work so many hours are so hard I'm not doing that anymore it's hard for me to motivate myself to do that I'm working smarter now so in many ways I'm more efficient but uh but still there's something about having that kind of a that kind of raw Drive that raw determination to just go out there like work through a problem no matter what and that can be a very very powerful force a lot of times what happens is that people lose that force once they reach a moderate level of success maybe that's you maybe that is where you're going to stuck at and that's the reason that you are feeling frustrated and the reason that you're feeling unmotivated is because you're stuck in a rut and with this half we like to define that well you know what are two things can knock you out of it so I say that most people get stuck in a trundle stuff stay stuck in there for a very long time and maybe the rest of their lives a certain other percentage of people it'll happen is they'll get stuck in that rut but that an external circumstance will come in will knock them out knock them out of that rut so this has to be something jarring it's something emotionally triggering right for me for example it's this this case this legal case so it was very jarring for me kind of again enough contrast in my life that I can see like whoa that's what it used to be like that's what it used to be like to have that kind of hunger for life okay awesome so that was a does a great reminder but you know for you it might not be a legal case for you it might be the breakup of a relationship or it might be you know just kind of finally looking at yourself in the mirror one day and saying enough enough is enough and like you start to see that you're disgusted with your body if you start taking teen parents for losing waste when going to the gym maybe that kind of thing maybe it's a sort of rude comment that someone makes at you but you know it's one of those comments that's lewd but also true at the same time and it starts to like get you to really see yourself in a new light maybe it's the collapse of a business that you've got maybe it's some bad luck that you get you know maybe you lose you lose your car maybe someone you know steals a bunch of money from you it's not like that happens I didn't see it sort of like reevaluate your life and you're just gonna like forced into it or maybe a death in the family maybe someone near to you dies that's always a very very powerful external influence that can get you to rethink your life and to subjugate you out of the run get some of that thirst for life back again right because you start to see that wow life is short and I've been worrying about a lot of patiently petty that's not going to be remembered by anyone after a bed I'm not going to build any kind of legacy I'm not helping any with the sphere that I've got so why don't you why don't I just like forget that for a second and just like focus on something that's actually important but something that's bigger than me about that so so I tend to see that you know one of these external services can come and kind of knock you out of place and those can be good a lot of times we think that those are really bad like for example if you asked me yesterday I would've told you that this is horrible what I'm going through is literally one of the most brutal days of my life but but you know now I look back at and like yeah that was actually uh that was actually an awesome growth opportunity I really grew myself a lot by having to to go through through that whole ordeal and and then of course the the final point is that you know sometimes an external circumstance won't come along now if it doesn't come along then you're probably going to just stay in that rut but of course you can't take conscious control and that's kind of what I'm doing now is that I've had this external circumstance come in but I'm also going to now start taking external control more I could myself to that you know take take conscious control of this situation and so what does that mean well I think that that means taking some bold action you know it's not enough to take a little baby step sometimes that's good that's generally how I do personal velopment through baby steps but sometimes you also need to take a bold step up in order to get higher sometimes you just think that like bust through the wall make support a big bold radical decision to bust you out of a rut when you know that you're in a rut what could that be well it might mean moving out of the country living in a new country just out of the blue maybe moving to a new city a new state kind of change your environment totally change your environment maybe it might mean getting out of a relationship breaking up a relationship maybe getting a divorce if that's what's right for you maybe my mean finally dropping that business that you know is it isn't what you really want to be doing maybe it's time to quit that lame job that you're frustrated with that's keeping you down maybe it's time to even quick a very successful job that you've got which is taking up all your time and keeping you from from your dream projects so you know there's there's a whole list of these kind of bold actions that you can take now I'm not saying that you should be frivolous and stupid and just go ahead and quit your job tomorrow ah no I'm saying that you have to do this in a very intelligent well planned out a strategic sort of way but ultimately if you've been in a rut and you notice that you've been in a rut for a year or more I would say a year or more maybe five years you know if you've been in a rut for a long time and you know that you're not going to change just by yourself you know that you need some sort of external stimulus to come like put you out of it pull you out or you need someone to help you or you need to basically put yourself in a situation where you're not going to be able to improve the property loan well then maybe you should consider doing that you know because it's really nice to have that thirst thirsty life again and sure it's top it's not always a pleasant in the moment to be kind of fighting for your life but wow it's also it's also it's also very lane to be stuck in that rut to write very very lame to be stuck in that rut and I think right now the best situation or the best solution is to go out there and have the loftier goals for after the Lochner values but then infuse into that sort of killer instinct that you had from the past right I think that's the ultimate ideal situation that's personally what I'm going to try to create for myself right now I'm feeling extra pumped up in that case extra pumped often still have not gotten the verdict from that argued my ass off even the the opposing counsel came up to me the other trial and said how how impress you us by how hard I argue that case even the guy that I was suing II was at the trial he's witness he came out to me at the end and he said how how impressed he was how hard I argued that case and there were even like legal students uh that were taking some notes they were just like students that were studying laws and you were just taking notes and observing the trial and they told me the same thing that they were surprised at how well I argue that and that I wasn't a lawyer myself so I guess you know what I learned from that is in other videos ultimately it's this it's this feeling you know it's the feeling of people a contract really fighting for something not just in a kind of a slow-paced sort of way but you know like ah like do-or-die sort of way that can be really powerful so see if you can create that kind of scenario in your life and if you're in that scenario right now already not of your own choice because you're stuck in the mud and your life is then you know what um I've been there I've just been there yesterday I've been there many times before in my life and just kind of you have to push through you have to push through and trust that there's gonna be something bigger for you I know I know now how painful it is I remember very vividly how painful it is just because I went through an experience like that yesterday all right so this is Leo already signing off this is what I have to say about staying hungry so this is goodbye from Toronto go ahead post your comments down below please like this please share this click the like button right now and of course I would like you to come check out actualize org and sign up to our newsletter there where I'm releasing new videos new articles other goodies about how to self 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